Exploring Validation

Hello there, and welcome back to Mindset Matters. Today, I want to dive deep into the intriguing world of validation. Yes, the act of seeking approval, acknowledgment, and, of course, those likes and comments that light up our social media lives.

I've been pondering this topic lately, especially considering the feedback on my podcast has been a bit quieter than usual. It got me thinking: how much does validation matter? Is it a catalyst for growth, or does it become a tricky game of ego inflation? So, buckle up as we navigate through the realms of internal and external validation.

Let's start with the internal stuff—the affirmations, the self-check-ins, the belief in oneself. All the good vibes we send our way. It's like a personal pep talk that keeps us on track. But, as with anything, too much of a good thing can be a bit dicey. Imagine constantly telling yourself you're perfect and need no improvement. Yikes! Internal validation loses its charm when it blinds us to our own flaws or makes us a tad too entitled.

Now, let's jump to the external validation, the likes, the comments, the views—especially in the vast universe of social media. Remember the good old days of strategically posting pictures on Instagram at 7 pm on Sundays for maximum likes? Ah, the memories! It's fascinating how external validation has become intertwined with the quality of what we put out there. If it doesn't get enough likes, should it even exist? But here's the kicker—too much reliance on external validation can be a slippery slope. What if the feedback isn't as positive as we hoped? Cue the existential crisis.

My podcast journey had me reflecting on this. Positive feedback in the beginning was a tremendous motivator. It fueled my passion to keep going. But as the messages slowed down, doubts crept in. Am I still doing well? Are people still enjoying this? The rollercoaster of external validation played tricks on my mindset.

And here lies the crucial question: when does validation become negative? I believe it's when we give it too much importance. If we hinge our happiness solely on the external validation we receive, we're on shaky ground. Your creations, whether online or offline, should be an expression of your joy and purpose, not just a quest for likes and comments.

Now, let's talk about the danger zone—overnight sensations. Those who skyrocket to fame in the blink of an eye, especially on platforms like TikTok. It's a whirlwind of attention, and if not handled carefully, the ego can take over. Miley Cyrus shared her insight on this, revealing how constant adoration on tour fueled her ego to unhealthy levels. It's a stark reminder that external validation, when unchecked, can mess with our sense of self.

So, what's my take on all this? Balance is key. Yes, appreciate positive feedback, but let it be the bonus, not the main course. Your intrinsic motivation, the joy you find in what you do, should be the driving force. Take breaks from social media, reflect on your root why, and be open to constructive criticism, even if it stings a bit.

And here's a thought: maybe, just maybe, the '90s had it right. The simplicity of showing up at someone's house, sans smartphones, and the charm of 7 pm Sunday Instagram posts. It's a different world now, but hey, a little nostalgia never hurt anyone.

So, my friends, as we navigate the labyrinth of validation, remember your 'why.' Do it because you love it, not just for the applause. I'd love to hear your thoughts on this. Send me a message, let's chat, and if you have topics you want me to dive into, let me know.

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